JWS, just from a purely personal perspective, my interest in sex fluctuates wildly. When I was a teen, I was just as interested in sex as the average oversexed teenage boy. When I got married (age 20) I was shocked at how my interest level dropped off. I was too busy worrying about money and grades and finding a career track job, and sex took a distant back seat for a while. I also think being on the pill greatly reduced my interest in sex, but fear of pregnancy when I wasn't on the pill was also a big downer. I have had the same partner for 22 years now, and I can state unequivocally that my interest in sex at any given moment has nothing at all to do with his abilities or attractiveness. There have been periods of time when I absolutely wore him out, and there have been periods of time when I'd rather have my teeth cleaned than have sex. It's all down to hormone levels and whether my head is in the game or I'm too wrapped up in something else. Men take women's lack of interest in sex way too personally, while women see men's constant interest in sex as proof that men only value women as sexual playthings. Neither position is correct.
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Sex before marriage would eliminate a lot of unhappy marriages in the Borg...
by sinis insensible, safe sex, in my opinion, should be engaged in.
because, as you get older and are ready to settle down, you will look at your potential sole mate, not for sexual reasons, but for what they have to offer mentally and if they are compatible.
when religion restricts this, and yuo must marry to have sex, i believe that you doom a marriage at the outset, because these young folks marry out of lust, only to have the rose colored blinders pulled off later, and regret the entire arrangement... .
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OMG ....we overslept lol
by judi8751 indid anyone else do this on sunday mornings: when i was slowly waking up i realised that i didnt want to be at the meetings anymore, my hubby would be sleeping and i realised it was time to get up & get ready, so even though i was bursting for the loo i would hold it so as not to wake him up .
sometimes i was in pain holding it in , but waited till it was too late to get there on time lol.
then he would suggest going to the afternoon meeting intead and i would say i didnt like that congregation...you go hahahahaha, funny thing is he never liked going to the meetings by himself!!!
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i used to do that all the time. I'd have to pee so bad, but i really really really didn't want to go to the meeting
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Sex before marriage would eliminate a lot of unhappy marriages in the Borg...
by sinis insensible, safe sex, in my opinion, should be engaged in.
because, as you get older and are ready to settle down, you will look at your potential sole mate, not for sexual reasons, but for what they have to offer mentally and if they are compatible.
when religion restricts this, and yuo must marry to have sex, i believe that you doom a marriage at the outset, because these young folks marry out of lust, only to have the rose colored blinders pulled off later, and regret the entire arrangement... .
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Too many people focus on sexual performance as the reason for being unhappy with a particular partner. Sexual compatibility is not just technique and performance. The real issue is whether a particular partner will learn to do what pleases the other. If one partner is selfish and uninterested in the other's enjoyment, or too inhibited to try new things, it's not going to work. Simply being unskilled is a fixable problem, and issues like premature ejaculation and impotence can be dealt with as well. The only unfixable problems are an unwillingness to learn and experiment, and an inability to accept that real sex isn't like the sex in romance novels or porn flicks.
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Sex before marriage would eliminate a lot of unhappy marriages in the Borg...
by sinis insensible, safe sex, in my opinion, should be engaged in.
because, as you get older and are ready to settle down, you will look at your potential sole mate, not for sexual reasons, but for what they have to offer mentally and if they are compatible.
when religion restricts this, and yuo must marry to have sex, i believe that you doom a marriage at the outset, because these young folks marry out of lust, only to have the rose colored blinders pulled off later, and regret the entire arrangement... .
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sexual compatibility at the beginning of a relationship is no guarantee of compatibility after 20 years. there were a lot things i had never heard of when i was 20 that are common practice now. plus, libido changes over the years. still, i agree that people should engage in responsible sex before marriage
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Active/Fading JWs...How Many Have Been DFd in Your Hall in the Last Year?
by LostGeneration inmy jw wife came home really upset a couple weeks back.
someone was "announced" at the hall that she really loves, a young woman.
it was the fourth person dfd from her hall since the beginning of 2012. two young people, one single mother, (those three probably for "sex crimes" but i don't know 100%) and one ms, which is the most interesting from my perspective because i knew the guy to always be a rebel, and i suspect it was for apostasy or he dad.
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The hall I attended was rural, basically middle class people with a few on the lower end of the economic spectrum. There were a lot of family groups - the PO and the secretary were brothers, their wives and children all attended the same hall. Another family group included a mom, daughter, son in law, 3 grandchildren, the spouse of one grandchild, and that spouse's mother, brother, and sister in law. There were only about 40 people total who attended meetings regularly. There were just a few teens/young adults.
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My Psychiatrist
by Mum inso, i went to see my psychiatrist the other day.
she asked me, "does anyone in your family suffer from mental illness?".
i replied, "no, actually we all enjoy it!
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My therapist says insanity is hereditary - you get it from your kids.
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Active/Fading JWs...How Many Have Been DFd in Your Hall in the Last Year?
by LostGeneration inmy jw wife came home really upset a couple weeks back.
someone was "announced" at the hall that she really loves, a young woman.
it was the fourth person dfd from her hall since the beginning of 2012. two young people, one single mother, (those three probably for "sex crimes" but i don't know 100%) and one ms, which is the most interesting from my perspective because i knew the guy to always be a rebel, and i suspect it was for apostasy or he dad.
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In the entire 12 years I was attending, there was only one disfellowshipping and a couple of reproofs.
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When You Learned TTATT, the truth about the truth(tm) How Did It Make You Feel?
by LoisLane looking for Superman in.
i felt stunned.
i felt betrayed.. just lois.
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I felt embarrassed that I ever believed such nonsense.
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Why Is Stealing From Local Municipalities Not A Sin To JWs? Construction For Example?
by ÁrbolesdeArabia inwhen i begin to think about jehovah's witnesses and stealing from cesar my mind begin's to spin.
last year while walking through a very popular elder's house he showed me how he had doubled the house from the original blue print plans.. .
the inspectors of the county are incompetent or received a bribe, how can you add 1500 sq ft without the building inspector catching the error?
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it is just as wrong to steal from the government as it is to steal directly from your neighbor. dubs just pay lip service to honesty and integrity.
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The real problem is the wife's refusal to wear a modest skirt. Women who wear pants are obviously demonized LOL